Yes, I'm at my wit's end. Long story short: The woman I'm seeing has a history of lying and being secretive to me. Before we got together, she was dating two other guys, and intimate with both. No big deal, so I thought. We made the decision to move our relationship forward, and she told me those relationships were not serious. She told me the were casual, and she would stop talking to/seeing them. Great I thought. We could concentrate on our relationship, and make it stronger and better.
Well, I found out last week she hadn't stopped talking to either of them and had even met one of them (Guy No. 2) for coffee. I was flabbergasted. It wasn't enough that she lied to me when she told me she would stop talking to them, but then she even met with one of them. I was truly devastated. We talked it through, and she said she was committed to our relationship and that she would finally end it with them for good. Whatever that means, right?
Guy No. 1 calls, and she tells him, again!, that she doesn't want to talk with or see him again, that she's trying to concentrate on our relationship. Well, that made him mad, and he told her that made him sick. So he told her he didn't want to talk with her again, either. She then told me that she was hurt, and she hadn't realized she had such strong feelings for Guy No. 1. Hmmmm, talk about wrenching my heart even more. But she said, she would get over it/him. She wanted to be with only me. I'm not even sure if she's talking to Guy No. 2 still.
Believe me, my first instinct is to run like hell and never look back. I'm not sure I can believe her, or if she can even stop talking with these guys, even though she professes her love for me.
In a nutshell, I'm confused and at my wit's end. I don't know what to do, but I do know I'm not a quitter. I love this woman, and want to move forward still; she sure isn't making it easy.
P.S. This is the woman I love, so if you comment, please keep that in mind. I'm really not interested in disparaging comments about her.
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